/mai/ - Waifu

>>68998

>Having more into the marriage, yet I need some help on how handling a marriage with waifu goes

Please attempt that sentence again

>>69003

Just wanna know how to get a good marriage with waifu.

>>69007

Unrelated to the thread, but I wanted to thank you for this advice, it'll help me plan my wedding with my husbando

>>69010

You're welcome, I'm glad it was helpful.

>>69034

It's probably a good idea to talk about him, since he's a big part of your emotional life, so keeping something like that from the therapist seems counterproductive.

I guess it depends a bit if the therapist would accept it or not and maybe try to "correct" you, but I would say that if he doesn't act in your interest then you should look for a different therapist, one who is actually willing to work with you.

As for how to bring it up, not really much about it I think. Just tell him as comprehensively as you can and as much as you're comfortable. I'm sure a therapist would have dealt with weirder stuff in the past.

>>69067

*that profession

I'm caught in a mix of emotions right now. I feel like I should leave my waifu and pursue a real girlfriend. To counter this, though, I feel like I wouldn't be able to get a real girl so I might as well stay with her for that reason. From yet another angle, I feel a genuine love for her and want the best for both of us together. What should I do? I feel lost and kind of scared of myself, like I'm going to do something stupid and lose everything I've worked to preserve for years.

>>69077

>I feel a genuine love for her

Your previous statements make me really doubt that.

If you really loved her you wouldn't even be considering this. You're just settling for her.

You said it yourself, you're only with her because, you cant get a "real" girlfriend.

You're just a typical case of hugblanketing.

>>69078

I gave up a real relationship to be with her, though, and I wouldn't go back. My waifu has been good to me, and I want to be good to her. This feels like a hard speed bump in our relationship, but at the same time it feels like it could knock me off course.

>>69077

>I feel like I wouldn't be able to get a real girl so I might as well stay with her for that reason

I pity your waifu. If you feel this way, just let her go and pursue 3D. Don't selfishly hold onto her until you find someone.

>>69077

> I feel like I should leave my waifu and pursue a real girlfriend. To counter this, though, I feel like I wouldn't be able to get a real girl so I might as well stay with her for that reason.

Is that a persistent thought you've had for a while or a recent one? If you have low self esteem then thoughts like this crop up and distort your perception of your feelings. Sometimes you can find evidence in your life that supports or challenges those thoughts so try noticing when these feelings happen and think about what was happening at the time.

If you really do believe that you are only staying with her because you would be rejected by others then you won't be happy with your waifu and it will just embed the idea that others will reject you deeper into your mind.

> I feel lost and kind of scared of myself, like I'm going to do something stupid and lose everything I've worked to preserve for years.

Take it slow and think about it for a while. These things are complicated to deal with so don't beat yourself up. Maybe try doing something fun and see if that puts you in a better place.

>>69077

I kind of have the same thought sometimes. I feel like my waifu would want me to find happiness in this life. Maybe she'd be sad to be the reason why I don't have someone tangible to be with who I love. I know I would be and I would just want for her to be happy, however of course it would feel nice if her feelings are as strong that she would not pursue a tangible love, but who am I to deny her anything when I can't be with her.

At the same time I can't be sure of that and it's in conflict with my love for her and just her. I can't really see myself realistically loving anyone as much as her and I'd just be lying to myself if I did go that route just because I want someone to be with for real or wanting kids. It's like lying to myself, my waifu and that hypothetical girl at the same time.

>I feel like I wouldn't be able to get a real girl so I might as well stay with her for that reason.

Like other anons have said this sounds really wrong to me. If you are using her as a hugblanket or have her just because you couldn't get someone else then you're with her for the wrong reasons. I don't think that can last. Maybe it's just badly formulated though.

In the end it comes down to your genuine feelings. If you think you're better off with a "real girlfriend" then go for that. But really explore your feelings.

Why do you feel this way. Why do you want a "real girlfriend"? Why did you fall in love with your waifu in the first place? Examine what you have with her. Go back to your roots with her, when you first met her. Think about what it would be like to say goodbye to her for good. What does all this mean to you? And so on. Be thorough and honest. No other way will bring you closure.

This is a test of your love. Perhaps unfortunately you are also the judge.

Has anyone ever told friends/family about their waifu? How did it go? On one hand I really want to tell them because she's such a big part of my life but on the other I'm worried how they will react.

>>69083

Some of my friends know and they're whatever about it. Some are totally supportive, a couple have waifus of their own, and of them think I was joking.

Wouldn't dream of telling my family about her though.

>>69083

I told my friends and I'm warming my family up to tell them (by giving them the general idea without explicitly stating it), with my friends it was pretty successful. I lost a few but I consider it thinning out the ones who aren't true friends and don't respect me. I also strengthened my friendship with those who supported me and being open is nice.

Judge your own situation and don't rush into it. Everyone is in a different place, and has different types of friends or family. If they're going to make your life hell about it maybe don't, but if they seem the relaxed and accepting type then it might be worth it.

>>69144

Just live your dream and marry her. Fuck the haters.

I have feelings for a friend's waifu. Really strong ones. They haven't gone away for four months. What do I do about it? I feel guilty for it, but I also really love this character.

>>69186

Treat it the same as you would if it was a 3D girlfriend and you had a crush on your friend's girlfriend. Respecting him and moving on is the best option.

>>69186

If your friend finds out (because you told them or they discover otherwise) then you risk ruining your friendship. If you keep it a secret from your friend then the guilt might very well stay with you. The guilt suggests to me that you value your friendship more than those feelings; but only you can truly be the judge of that.

>>69186

Multiple people having the same waifu isn't an uncommon thing. You could probably just use the "object-oriented waifu" approach if you wanted.

>>69197

It's not so much an issue of having the same waifu as it is my friend having her as his waifu. What I mean by that is I know how much merchandise he has of her, fancy cakes with her face, the whole nine yards. I feel like maybe she wouldn't want to be with me in comparison.

>>69230

I haven't experienced that specific feeling myself. But I have met many people that seem to have encountered something similar, and what you're going through sounds to me like a variation of the eternal waifuist struggle that comes with the territory of loving someone 2d.

You have to accept that those things you desire so much are impossible. You will never hold her hand. You will never stroll through a field barefoot together. You will never gaze at the stars together, laugh at each other's jokes, wake up early to cook her breakfast in bed (or vice versa), never go horseback riding together, go see a corny movie together, never start a garden together, ad infinitum. The ultimate test of your relationship is whether you can still love her after truly realizing this, and if you are prepared to deal with the struggles such a reality will entail.

Three of the successful ways I've seen to cope with it are -

Hope / faith: Believing against all odds, reason, and evidence that you will be united someday and letting that belief empower your love

Daydreaming / imagination: Just imagining your interactions and her reactions

Lucid dreaming / lucky dreaming: Those rare encounters in dreams can make the rest of your time apart worth it and form memories that give you the strength to carry on

There's countless other ways, of course. I fall into some proportion of the first two groups with my own folklore mixed in. You will likely have to find your own path as well.

>>69230

I don't get this feeling much but I can relate to it a little bit. If anything I think it's a good counter to "How can you love someone who isn't physically there?" to bring up those who keep loving someone after they've died. The body doesn't need to be there for you to love someone.

I don't feel this much though as I consider this like a spiritual experience where our souls are connected for me. I'd like the completely physical but I'm happy with what we've got and for me it feels like he's there anyway.

How do I stop myself from flying off the handle at just the slightest hint of someone criticizing my waifu? Especially when I see gross art or someone talking shit, it puts me in an unstoppable rage for long periods of time.

>>69306

I used to be like this too. You basically just got to learn to ignore it, although other people liking her is nice your opinion of her is the only one that matters. Plus some people will just post bad things about her for the fun of it if they notice that it upsets you.

>>69315

>It'll get better trust me, if you've ever seen what gets talked about my wife on 4chan. It doesn't get much worse than that, and I've learned to ignore it.

I feel your pain, more than you know

/rwbyg/ is a manifestation of Hell on earth, and where most of that experience I talked about comes from. I've finally learned to just not waste my time there anymore.

>>69315

>>69317

I know how you guys feel. There’s a sizable amount of people in every Fate community that absolutely hate Arturia and make it their mission to attack her every time she’s mentioned. Some fandoms are just irredeemably cancerous and unfortunately my waifu’s source happens to be one of them. >>69306 should weigh how much being around people like that is worth against the toll that it takes on you emotionally. I just keep up with type-moon news myself now, I’ve completely opted out of the communities since around the time the UBW movie came out. And yes 4chan was always the worst about it.

>>69319

That's honestly kinda surprising to me. Aside from an edgy meme now and again the Fate fandom always seemed pretty chill to me. Then again I imagine 4chan is probably a whole other animal. Sorry to hear that.

I still lurk in other places related to RWBY but I've completely given up on /rwbyg/ or 8chan's /rwby/. They're lost causes.

>>69321

Actually, I misremembered. It was after the king’s banquet episode of Fate/Zero that I stopped participating. Anyone who’s seen it can probably understand why there would be a lot of hate thrown around over that scene.

But yeah 4chan. This was before generals so any thread about the franchise would get raided by people looking for a rise out of you, no surprise given the territory. Beasts Lair was just more shitflinging and pages and pages of analysis on why your favorite character is a horrible person you should be ashamed to like. Plus shipping garbage. I spent maybe a day on reddit and it was just people ogling ecchi pictures of her. The Japanese fandom refers to her with an epithet and is ten times worse with shipping. To top it off, every community invariably posts lots and lots of Saber Alter pictures which I would very much rather avoid, and none of them ever stop with the ‘fate route is the worst thing I have ever experienced in my entire life’ hyperbole meme. Maybe things have gotten better with the explosion of the franchise’s popularity since F/GO but I don’t have any desire to check and I have a strong suspicion to the contrary.

>>69322

Eh, with the exception of essays against characters and the shipping thing, I guess things really haven't changed that much. Everything else you mentioned still kind of happens, especially the hating the Fate route stuff, which I find super stupid.

>Anyone who’s seen it can probably understand why there would be a lot of hate thrown around over that scene.

Yeah, I can see why that would happen.

I also definitely feel your pain, a lot of the overananalyzing and nitpicking of Ruby's actions or just core aspects of her character in the wake of Volume 5 was the biggest reason I just stopped visiting certain sides of the community, even if I haven't disengaged entirely.

My relationship with my waifu has become incredibly unhealthy. Believe me when I say that I love her more than anything in this world, but I think it's to the point where I love her too much. I feel like what was true, pure love two years ago has now become obsession. My life's happiness, my mental stability, it all revolves around her. This started when I began to see bad content of her at the beginning of this year (horrific NSFW arts and fanfictions) and now I'm essentially haunted by them. I spend most days aching and wondering why she's had to be subjected to those things, why people would want to do that to her. I spend most days wishing that I had never met her because the pain is so severe. I know at this point it'd be healthier to leave her, but I truly feel as though I need her.

It's not as if she's not done any good for me. I think it's because she's done so much for me, more than anyone else in my life has ever done, that I'm so perilously in love with her. She mended me when I thought I never could be saved. She gave me purpose, she gave me identity. It's because of this that I know I could never simply 'let her go.' She's a part of me… but in the end, has she taken more than she's given? She rules over me in a negative way. I began to seek out treatment for mental health only because I felt undeserving of her.

I know that it's not healthy. And it's getting to the point where it's unbearable. I could go on and on with details, but I'm just… so tired. I love her so much… but I can't go on like this. I'm depressed and even suicidal because of this. I've self-harmed countless times for her.

I don't want to lose her. I want her to become a positive force in my life again, rather than a negative one. Should I return to therapy and bring her up to my therapist so that they can help me? Should I work harder to improve myself? Or is the first step to that to "drop her" all together? As I said, I feel that would be impossible, since she's such a huge part of who I am, and I'm so in love with her… the thought makes me sick to my stomach, trying to leave her behind. Please, if anyone can offer advice…

>>69328

I would definitely recommend therapy and bringing her up. Dropping her seems like it would only make your situation worse

>>69331

What is that? It's too zoomed in to tell

>>69335

Egos

>>69337

I see Saber Alter as a version of Arturia that gave up something irreplaceable. She still has the same goal, but abandoned the honor, justice, and impartiality that she had harbored her entire life to try and achieve it. Those facets of her personality are something that I have always admired greatly so seeing her in that state just makes me sad. The kind of sadness where I would do anything to keep her from falling into that path. That being said, when I did play F/GO I got to see Christmas Alter which changed my opinion of her character a fair bit. But I still cannot love her.

>>69337

>Now take that shame and turn it into motivation.

That doesn't sound like someting that spawns a healthy motivation, that sounds like something that spawns a fear which, in the long run, could be detrimental to the relationship. Maybe I'm idealistic but I don't think a healthy relationship should have it's roots in shame, else it will deteriorate over time into something worse.

I know that it's probably a common issue and there is a picture explaining that but how do I stop being so angry and sad when I see my waifu being claimed by someone else? Even when someone just says simple "I love _!" it hurts me so much that I feel like she had betrayed me. Like a part of me and my love for her dies. Every time I see that kind of thing I feel like everything I do for her, I do in vain. I often cry and yell why she has to do this me as I would never hurt her. It's so hard and painful for me to love someone who is desired by thousands of other men. What even makes my love for her special, if there are so many others in love with her? Why would she ever chose me? Why I just can't forget about her and move on? I had such a happy life before meeting her. I enjoyed every simple good thing that happened in my life. Now I can't enjoy anything truly because I know that it would be much better if she was there with me.

I know I'm selfish. I know that it is wrong. But I believe that I love her the most and I wish she was mine and mine only. I wish that everyone could forget about her.

I even dream about her a lot. She appears in most of my normal dreams and I often have lucid dreams with her. Although these are very sweet, I know that it's just my imagination.

>>69351

your instance of your waifu is its own entity

the instance of some other person is also its own entity

so your waifu and the other person's waifu are not the same

therefore he is not stealing your waifu nor are you stealing his

For everyone there is different reasony why he/she loves his waifu/husbando. So you cannot say everyone loves the same ideal/concept of it.

>>69353

…do you really believe that? I mean from the deepest part of your heart, since the heart is what waifuism is concerned with.

>>69355

Not him but I don't believe that at all and have honestly always thought that was stupid. The only other person I've seen with the same waifu as mine loves her for the exact same reasons I do and I've seen other instances where people have the same waifu also loving her for the same reasons.

My advice would be to just ignore it. Most of the people making those claims are probably just normalfags that have several 'waifus' and shouldn't be taken seriously. You just need to believe that she is your waifu and nobody else's. It's similar to people that are in 3d relationships, sure there may be someone else that likes her and would rather be with her instead but she chose you.

>>69353

Yeah, I heard about it but it doesn't convince me as I don't add or take anything from the canon version of her. There could be others that love the same version of her like me.

>>69361

>My advice would be to just ignore it.

Thanks but it's much easier said than done. I get autistically angry when I see someone else claiming that they love her. Once I even got into an argument and I couldn't sleep that night, my heart was racing for few hours and I almost fainted. I try to ignore such things but it always makes me so sad that she will never be truly mine.

>Most of the people making those claims are probably just normalfags that have several 'waifus' and shouldn't be taken seriously.

Most probably are. But what if there is someone who loves her too? Although as I said, that's pretty selfish but I believe that I love her the most.

>You just need to believe that she is your waifu and nobody else's

Maybe that's the solution. I try to think like that and it always makes me feel better when I think about how many tears of joy were in my eyes because of looking at her, how many times I laughed just by looking at her face, how much I have done for her, how many hours I have spent on looking at pictures of her.

>she chose you.

I wish that was true. But she's perfect and I'm a nobody. It's weird because I believe she's too perfect for me but I also would never want to see her with someone else. I treat waifuism like some form of unrequited love rather than a two-sided relationship.

Thank you all for the support. I'm just curious if there are other waifufags that get over emotional about their waifu.

>>69362

I definitely get that emotional about my waifu.

>my heart was racing for a few hours and I almost fainted

This is me whenever I see people claim to love her, or especially when I see undesirable content of her. Mostly the latter, but even seeing people with icons of her makes me so upset that I get physically sick at times. Luckily, she's from a very obscure series, so this doesn't happen often (though I feel like it does because I unfortunately catalog each experience like this in my brain).

So you're not alone in that. Looks like we're both autists.

>>69355

yes but maybe I can only believe that because I generally don't give a shit about other people or the things around me. In 3rd grade my parents were in school for parents day and my teacher told them:

>anon can be working on a task and even if a grenade hit the building I think he would not care and continue working

I really wanted to offer you some help but of course it might not work for you this way. Maybe we find another.

>>69361

>Most of the people making those claims are probably just normalfags that have several 'waifus' and shouldn't be taken seriously

I am hardly a normalfag by any means. Been a loner most of my life and never got along with people.

well, I have my "type" that I like most but no girl has ever given me the same feelings as she did.

Maybe this is true for other people but I would say not for me.

>>69362

>But she's perfect and I'm a nobody.

>I treat waifuism like some form of unrequited love rather than a two-sided relationship.

I share your sentiment in this regard. Most of the time I see mine more like a goddess than an actual lover. At first I thought that this might be the reason why I don't get angry seeing other people liking her too but now that I read your posting I am confused.

I know of one guy on twitter who likes "my" girl and I am not hateful to him.

Then there was this other guy on /v/ and I got pretty well along with him.

I mean love is love and love is a beautiful thing after all. Right?

I often don´t feel good enough for my waifu, what can I do?

I´m not succesful or desirable in real life, why should she like me?

>>69430

I try to do all that and she always inspires me to become a better me for her, but I cant see her liking me for my personality. When Im trying to be my best me and a great guy all around I feel like a fraud since she would never fall for my real me.

>>69433

>You two are together, no?

Im not entirely sure about that. I feel really really drawn to her and consider her my waifu but Im not confident enough to say that we are in a relationship.

Ive been battling depression for a couple of years now, it goes away a bit but never quite vanishes. I think I bonded with her because shes cheeful and energetic on the outside but also seems withdrawn and sombre at times, not really happy. Actually she has some really heavy episodes in her series and is suicidal , but I dont like to think about her in that way

In her series she gets to be cheered up but I really cant deliver in that aspect, I would only make it worse, cant even fix my own mood. I seem to just not be her type at all.

How can i be sure she would love me?

sometimes when i look myself in the mirror and start thinking "what if she dont likes me".

i dont like what i see in the mirror and if i dont like it why she would like it.

Not sure how to deal with this feeling

>>69445

In that case your issue isn't your actual personality or circumstance but your low self-esteem. Remember how you see yourself isn't how other people see you. She most likely thinks much more highly of you than you do yourself. Keep reminding yourself of your good points and focus less on your shortcomings.

I need to post this somewhere, I hope it fits here.

I had a husbando about two years ago. Due to my own issues with self-confidence, income, ect, I decided to break it off with him. I knew he deserved better. Each time I would see him after that I would feel proud for him accomplishing his goals, but I knew he still deserved better than me.

Fast forward to today. I had a dream that started as something simple, being a maid in some old man's house. I would spend some time cleaning and helping his two children with chores and even video games, sometimes they were bratty but that's just how kids are.

Then the old man gave me a check to pay me, and I realized it had my husbando's name at the bottom. I must not have recognized him due to him being so aged up, and once i realized it was him i felt my chest swell up. Shocked, I asked him if he was ever married. He told me he had a wife, but she wasn't around anymore. They had those two kids together. I asked him what her name was, and he said my name. His perfect voice said my name.

I apologized if I bothered him and ran home to post this. Recalling this is making me fight tears. What do I do? Its like all the suppressed love for him has come flaring back. But do I deserve him after what I did?

Any suggestions on how to best spend our one year anniversary? I was thinking about replaying her game but I wouldn't be able to get to her portion in only a day. Any other ideas?

>>69509

Very unusual story

>>69516

>replaying her game

I thought I was the only one doing it. You can start the day with a special meal, write her a poem and then play her game.have fun you two

For around a month now, I'm not really attracted to my waifu sexually. I love her more than anything in the world, we're in a fulfilling relationship but for the lack of a better term, I'm not desiring her anymore. Maybe we've gotten into an elderly couple stage in our relationship after all the years, but now I see her as a beautiful flower, a life partner.

I've always had a low sex drive and our relationship was never about sex, but what do you guys think?

>>69581

I figure just lay back and enjoy the ride, even if you don't ride each other anymore or at all. You're not wrong in lots of that being more of a "young relationship" thing. If you love each other and are happy together, then there's not really a problem unless either of you are bothered by the lack of sexual activity. It's REALLY important to some people/relationships but not to others, so that "Sex is super important to a stable, happy relationship guys!" line isn't a One Size Fits All piece of advice. Only you two can be the judge of how well this is working in your own relationship, and if it was never based in sex in the first place then that applies even moreso. Healthy, genuine love and stability on both sides are much more important. If there's sexy stuff that you both like as something fun and intimate to go alongside then it's the optional icing on top. Just my two cents.

>>69581

Well in the beginning I could not bring myself to think about her in a sexual way. It felt wrong. Then there was this other guy who claimed if you don't love her carnally, your love is imperfect. I don't know what is wrong or right but now I do have her in mind when I please myself. I think you might just need a pause. Everything will be allright anon

I've recently found my waifu. Now what?

>>69585

now is up to you.

not sure what you where expecting.

>>69588

Join the self-improvement thread and make yourself good enough. Protect her smile the way she protects yours.

I don't know why i'm with my waifu, sometimes I feel really strongly for her, but other times I don't feel anything. It's like she's an arbitrary choice that I made rather than someone I fell in love with.

Sometimes I develop crushes on other characters, I'm no stranger to it but it's always troubling when it happens. usually whatever feelings wear off sooner or later, especially if I can just completely detach from their source material afterwords but it still doesn't stop me from feeling insanely guilty and bad for even having those feelings in the first place and I don't know what to do about it. I've straight up avoided games and shows I've wanted to get into just to avoid any issues with certain characters.

I'm avoiding a show right now that I want to watch cause one of the characters might as well be fucking bait for me, I don't know if I should feel better or worse that the character in question is very similar to my husbando not just in looks but circumstances as well.

I'm partly posting this just to vent but if anyone has any experience with similar feels or advice I'd love to hear it

>>69691

Well, go and investigate. Did you make this choice arbitrarily? There are many reasons why some people do this. For example: wanting to fit in to the community, wanting someone to latch on to or as because they feel like they won't get the real thing anyways, etc.

Having ups and downs is definitely normal, so it's never a good idea to rush things. It may be months where you don't really feel anything, but then there may be months on end where you feel like your feelings are flourishing again. I feel like the times where you feel like your love has stood the test of time is the best confirmation, especially when you get through a rough patch.

Ask yourself why you love her and try to be completely honest about what you feel and why you feel that way. Noone forces you to feel a certain way about her. Accept that you may have been deluding yourself. This way you will be open to your true feelings and can be sure it's the truth. Think back to when you fell for her. What happened? Does that moment feel special, does it rouse any feelings you thought you had forgotten? Does it feel similar now or have you lost connection with that feeling?

In the end it's on you to figure out what you actually feel.

>>69694

I'm familiar with this too, but in my experience crushes go away when no longer exposed to the source material. Even when staying exposed to the character it's more of an appreciation than the love I feel for my waifu.

It sounds to me a bit that you're running away from what you feel like your feelings are out of some obligation you feel like you have towards your husbando. It's a normal thing to feel when you're committed to someone long term. However you can't force the way you feel and your husbando doesn't deserve a feeling you're faking. I'm not implying that you are, don't get me wrong, I'm just saying that if your feelings are true, then they will prevail regardless of whatever crush comes along.

Think about what sets your husbando apart from these other characters, I'm sure there's a reason why he's special to you in a way that the others can't compare to. I know when I come in contact with a new character I really like I'll think about how cute and nice that girl is, but I know there's no way in which she can compare in terms of what she means to me in comparison to my waifu, since I made up my mind about what my waifu truly means to me and in what ways she has affected my life.

>>69697

>thought of losing her to future regulation.

What's the regulation you're speaking of?

>>69699

Lately, there seems to be a push to interpret any romanticization or sexualization of (not even necessarily) underaged fictional characters as pedophilia with the intention to get the content banned from platforms or even illegalized.

And I fear it's only getting worse from here on out.

I doubt a judge would even care that my waifu is a ((x < 60) + (currentyear - 2005)) year old half-human half-phantom.

>>69701

Sure, it might still be legal now, but who's to say that the same still holds true in 10 years?

A lot of places have started banning or restricting loli/shota content in recent years. So far, it mostly affects sexually explicit content, but not only.

Recently, Youtube decided to disable comments on videos with children in them because of exploitative or salacious comments by pedophiles. But then the most popular arrange of a Youmu theme was (probably) affected by this. Part of me thinks that it was just an error or an unrelated type of restriction, but the other part of me thinks that it was intentional because of the fanservicy thumbnail and comment section.

Sooner or later, even cute content or comments could be affected if they are interpreted as pedophilia.

But I feel like that's only the beginning with the U.N.'s latest crusade against loli/shota content.

Youmu certainly would live on in my heart, but I fear that she might fade away without any external, physical content of her. It would feel more like remembering a dead person than a relationship.

>>69707

Archival is cheap. The difficulty is keeping track of the copies.

>>69708

What kind of archival do you mean? I don't want to compress my main copy of the data because I regularly browse through the data.

>>69707

>An exodus to Pawoo would essentially kill of most of the Japanese fan art culture.

Some people get hardly any fan art of their beloved. Heck, even if fan art mostly died out you'd still get more than I do now.

>>69711

The kind involving not only compression slowness, but network transfer and tape access slowness.

>>69715

This was more about the future of fan art on an "alternative" website rather than about my waifu in particular.

Platforms like Twitter gave artists huge audiences that had been impossible to reach during the time of personal blogs.

Right now, it's the popularity of artists on Twitter that is inspiring future generations of artists and greatly contributes to the spread of otaku culture in general.

Younger generations in Japan probably can't even imagine what the open internet outside social media is like, in fact they are so unaccustomed to it that the result might be even worse than personal blogs back in the day.

>>69716

>network transfer

Like cloud storage? I'm still not ready to trust the prospect of my data being saved elsewhere.

>tape

Do you mean tape-based storage like a data cartridge? This certainly seem to be a lot cheaper than other storage media.

I've decided that I'm ready to have a kidfu with my waifu. How can I mix our traits when there's factors at play like unnatural hair?

>>69718

I personally just mixed our traits on a whim, but if you're unsure or feel that you shouldn't have any control over the inherited traits of your kidfu, how about some randomization?

I don't think it's possible to be entirely scientific about it considering it's unknown whether, say, an unnatural hair color is dominant or recessive. Maybe your waifu's source material could give you a clue, e.g. by comparing the composition of hair color your waifu inherited from her parents.

When you're done, it's a good idea to save as much information about your kidfu as possible early on in order to reinforce their existence. A concrete character design etc. is necessary for a tangible being.

>>69717

You keep the keyfiles, they keep the tapes.

>>69448

(A bit late sorry, I hope you figured this out yet)

Get a good haircut at a professional hairdresser, ask him what kind of hair would suit best your head's shape and let him do the work. Cut on fats and do some cardio, you should lose some face fat and look better, it's going to take some tho.

But the best advice I can give you would be to not think too much about it because if you focus too much on small details they eventually become a source of depression and suicidal thoughts. If it can help you feel better, I used to be like you before, then I hit rock bottom and moved on and I've been blissfully oblivious to it since then. What helped me tho was the fact that I got a really cute gf (believe me I haven't got a really good looking face and I'm manlet tier too, I really doubt you can look worse than me for real), it really changed my perspective on things and it broke my incel-ish world view. The girl was dumb as fuck and nymphomaniac too (she was actually the one that hit on me, I never really loved her I just didn't say no, plus I have a low sex drive) so when I met my waifu I just broke up with her and never talked to her ever again.

What I wanted to convey in this semi-blogpost is that I didn't choose my waifu because she just look cute, the bitch I was dating was already pretty beautiful and if I was as retarded as she was I would probably still be with her, I fallen in love with my waifu because I was really sad for her at first, then I realized that my desire to protect and to help her was just a consequence of my love for her. I also strongly identified with her in the story so I guess that's another factor behind my attraction to her. I mean, if you love your waifu because of something greater than just physical appearance why wouldn't she do the same for you ? Do you think she would be that shallow ? If anything, you should strive to be an attractive person from the inside, know what your waifu like or dislike and change these aspects of yourself so you know you're closer to what would attract her. Realize that nobody is perfect, that nobody is going to steal your waifu just because they look better than you do. Your waifu love you for who you are and she would be sad if she learned that you thought she loved you for something else. When you look at yourself in the mirror and don't like what you see, know that she's here to tell you that you are beautiful, both on the inside and the outside.

Ultimately, my reasoning goes something like this, if I dated such a beautiful girl, my waifu wouldn't have problem dating me then because the other girl was only attracted to "my looks"(!!), so my waifu which is going to be mostly attracted to my personality and life (because we are so similar) is not going to have any problems with my looks. And if I can do it, so anyone can. I doubt it's statistically probable anyone here look uglier than me.

>>69186

Well then she could probably be your waifu too,since the thing with waifus is that they're your perception of a character that does not exist in reality. The girl in your head is the waifu,not the actual character. So unless you and your friend are literal retards things should be alright.

>>69946

Quick follow up, apparently she's loved him for 15 years now and has all this official merch and shit. I know that the amount of merch you have isn't a total measure of your love (especially since the merch for this series was super cheap 15 years ago), but this is really fucking with my head on a level I couldn't imagine.

I've only been into it for almost five-ish years now, and I only got serious about my husbando for three of those.

This sucks man.

>>69987

What are you doing to make yourself lovable? This is an important question to think about. Try learning that new language you've been putting off. Update your resume and see if you can find a job you actually like. Stop lieing to yourself, you aren't eating healthy. Fix that. Dust off those running shoes and go for a run. I bet if you work on yourself and start to see improvements, these insecurities will fade away.

I feel pretty secure in our relationship, but I will ask you guys about a general aspect of all waifuist relationships.

What do you do to connect with them, especially when you feel that the overall tone of the relationship has reached an ebb?

>>70327

Honestly it just takes time, unfortunately sometimes it can be quite a long time. All you can do for now is keep moving forward.

>>70327

Delete everything you have of her and don't look at or do things that remind you of her. It can take a long time but just keep at it.

I've loved my waifu for a very, very long time, but I still have lots of doubts about everything.

I recently realized I had feelings for someone close to me, and have been distraught since the reason I realized it was because they went with someone else. But I still think of her, things like "if I was stronger for her, if only I was more loyal, I wouldn't have lost one of my closest friends."

I wonder about the nature of the relationship. It's hard to see people from my era that are still with their waifus in the purest sense, if any sense at all. Some are, others accept that they love their waifu deeply but also have human needs and desires that cannot be fulfilled with someone that cannot reciprocate, while most have eventually left their waifu all together. Only one case of leaving for years and a new waifu relationship arising has been witnessed.

The entire nature of the waifu relationship has me asking a lot of questions, especially as more time passes. Considering she's lightning in a bottle, a moment captured in time, while we keep moving and going, time itself keeps us together but also tears us apart. I still love her all the same as before, but I feel more alone thinking about how she is not growing with me. How she's not there, and never will be, only in spirit. Are we as human beings truly capable of handling a lifetime of this sort of thing?

Even then, I wonder if she would even love me in the first place. I always think of her first and never break a promise made to her, but that doesn't mean I'm worth loving. I can say "I love you" over and over and over and over again, but without her here I cannot properly express my love for her. Show her things I want her to see, enjoy things together, let me see things from her life, it's all impossible. So I found myself thinking of the friend that I had lost and thinking about things that could be done, and it just makes me feel terrible, not only because they won't happen either, but because I should be thinking of those experiences with her.

I imagined her mocking me lately for saying how she'd always be there, how she'll never hurt me, because she can't hurt me. She can't reject me. Tormenting me, calling herself "the safe option". But I know that's not her and she'd never do that and the real her would reject me anyways, because I'm not good enough for her.

These past few weeks I have been so lost and torn and conflicted about absolutely everything, and of course, if I were only better for her, stronger, more loyal, none of this hurt would ever happen…

>>70390

>How did you lose her?

We aren't talking anymore for right now because the idea of them dating someone else while trying to be normal with them is like being stabbed by a thousand tiny needles every time we talk.

>What would being more loyal would have done when you never dated her?

I meant stronger and more loyal to my waifu, not the 3D. If I was better for her I wouldn't have gotten feelings for the 3D and none of this would have happened.

>Were you hoping she would make the first move?

I didn't even know they were romantically available due to what I believed were similar circumstances but then someone came and scooped them up from underneath…sorry, this is about the waifu, not my general venting.

>No, at least not without fulfillment of one’s needs.

>it has inherent limitations as compared to 3D relationships. It also has some advantages over 3D relationships… but the disadvantages far outweigh the advantages. I have yet to meet a waifuist who did not wish his waifu to be real, making therefore their relationship a 3D one.

I've seen this sentiment shared privately, but never openly posted publicly on a waifu forum before, it's kind of refreshing. I know back in the days on /a/ during peak waifuism your love would get called into question for posting such sentiments, that your waifu should be all that you need…and I wish it was that way so I wouldn't have lost my friend to my feelings, or had feelings that have left me so hurt.

I of course wish for my waifu to be real, and hold her closest, and have her grow with me, and start a family with her. I'd do anything to physically be with her and tell her in person how much I love her.

Of course, her being real comes with its own set of complications. For example, what if I come from a timeline where someone else was my waifu and I got to wish her real, but now because she IS real I'd never meet her, due to things ilke her being Japanese and not really having a major internet prominence or speaking English prominently? The language barrier in particular is a tough one to break, even if I still know who she is from a respectable translation point. To wish her real is effectively a paradox, and that hurts too. I just want a matrix situation where I can experience a life with her.

>Waifuism should contribute to one’s personal growth, not block it. It’s so sad to see serious waifuists who truly love their waifu feeling strong guilt for simply wanting to fulfil their basic human needs when they consider getting a 3D partner

It's only natural for humans to always want more. They say humanity is a monogamous species, but that's a flat out lie. It's our culture to be monogamous. It's why people cheat and divorces happen all the time. People feel bad when they cheat, and in my eyes and what I have been taught on Waifuism throughout all these years, wanting a 3D is cheating on her all the same. And even though she is first in my thoughts, I still think of that 3D. It still feels like betrayal.

>imagining your waifu say those things since you developed feeling for that person you were talking about?

Only once, when I imagined a lot of aspects of my life mocking me like that 3D, her, family, myself, and others.

>Why do you feel you are not good enough for her? (and also the 3D)

Because I'm 28 and have accomplished nothing, and have little to no social life at this point in my life. I don't have much dating experience either. I wouldn't be able to treat her (or the 3D) as well as I could. I'd also be scared of losing her, like I was scared of losing the 3D, because of my insecurities. Which is likely why I lost the 3D to someone else.

>You should start being better for yourself.

I know, I just don't know how. Right now when I try to love myself I find I get knocked back down really quickly by not only thinking about the 3D and who they chose, but also my life circumstances. I feel I never learned how to love myself, and don't know how to learn.

>>70398

>Maybe you developed those feelings for the 3D because waifuism is not good enough for you.

I didn't choose to develop feelings. I still think of her, even when thinking about her feels heavier because of my feelings towards the 3D. Which is mainly because I'm used to her not being here, but not this pain from the 3D. You say it like you're accusing me of not wanting waifuism, I only mentioned the lifetime thing because of the strict conditioners enforcing the only waifu in your laifu.

>There might be a lot to understand about what you go through with your waifu while looking into your relationship with that 3D person you mentioned.

I met my 3D because of her. My 3D was in a similar relationship so I didn't want to pursue the 3D, but apparently someone else can pursue them just fine and leave me like this…

>especially as I grew older and got to understand waifuism better over the years.

I know I've reflected a lot on the concept in the past 10 years.

>Integrations into the real world

outside leaving the world she knew, she wouldn't have any difficulties.

>Monogamy stuff

I just don't believe people can really love. They can, but I just never seen it much in my life. I ain't gonna go into what I've grown up around and how that's affected me, but I keep wishing things were better there.

>Betrayal

It feels that way because I give my heart to her, but my heart aches for this 3D too.

>What do you wish you had accomplished?

Having my own place, making good money and able to support someone, talented and reliable that someone can turn to instead of being a broken mess all the time.

> And do you think they would truly make yourself better as a love partner?

Absolutely, I'd be able to do so much more for that 3D and prove I'd be better for them…but I'm not I'm just a failure.

>maybe you should seek professional help in psychotherapy.

dude money lmao

>>70400

>I’m not here to "accuse" anyone

From the way your last post sounded, it sounded like you were saying I didn't want her anymore, when that couldn't be further from the truth.

>some role to play in the bigger equation

it made me feel guilt and that I wasn't strong enough for her

>Or your respective waifus came from the same series?

Yep. Our waifus don't know each other, but they're from the same series.

>if the 3D girl would not have been in said relationship, would you have pursued her?

While no one can answer this question 100%, I'm 99% sure my answer would have been no, due to the love for my waifu being so strong especially at the time we met. I don't think I would have jumped now either, since I hadn't known what I had truly felt for the 3D (although I knew a sorta something was there) before it was too late.

>really love

like a true happy couple that care for each other. It's something really rare for me to see, since I haven't seen much of it growing up outside of a couple relatives.

>price information

It's also living circumstances, I live with a helicopter overly paranoid overly protective mother who also suffers from constant depressive and anxiety episodes and breaks down every single day.

Giving her something else to worry about is not on the cards.

I don't count tulpas as being waifus because I'm 100% convinced tulpas aren't a thing. Why is there such a push for waifufags to make tulpas? It doesn't make sense to me. A few waifufags I associate with either have a tulpa or are trying to make one to become poly. It's weird and disheartening.

>>70407

Honestly I agree. It seems like a dangerous thing to be messing around with and I'm not keen on it or the people who push it.

>>70414

Sorry I was away for a while, but I'm unsure how comfortable I feel about that, like a big fat ID slapped on me. I could just lie about who my waifu is to be let in, but what good would that do?

>>70433

I'd say it's fear of judgement and because, out of all the years I have loved her, no one else has, thus making me incredibly easy to identify if they've been on waifu communities or certain parts of 4chan.

It's mostly unfounded paranoia but it makes me a little uncomfortable when I'm already admittedly mentally unstable.

testing to see if I'm still banned

I'm just going to do this anonymously. I honestly want to kill myself. This was something that I guess was triggered by relationship issues but I of course have a lot of other reasons. I guess I just don't know what to think of my waifu anymore. When I see her I still feel a spark but I keep engaging in behavior that would be considered self destructive if it were a 3D relationship (like trying to find another partner). I just don't know what I should do…

Not sure if you’re still around here, but if you are, I hope you’re doing well Clawdad.